Sam and Mason discuss Tony Robbins 6 Human Needs. Certainty uncertainty/variety Significance Connection/Love Growth Contribution
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Sam and Mason discuss Tony Robbins 6 Human Needs. Certainty uncertainty/variety Significance Connection/Love Growth Contribution
"Well well well...how the turn tables" The 10ninety podcast thanks Jimmy Rex by having him on for an episode where Jimmy and Mason talk about all sorts of different stuff. Thank you Jimmy Rex, you have opened many doorways for the 10ninety rule. "Jimmy doesn't like misunderstandings"
Happy Birthday Riggins, would have turned 8 today. I love and miss you more than words can describe. Trying to live with clear eyes and a full heart without you buddy. I love you and miss you always. Clear Eyes The ability to see what needs to be done, an understanding of what the problem or challenge is. In the sports world it is knowing your assignment, what you have to do and understanding what your teammates are doing while reading the changing situation that plays out in front of you. The ability to not get distracted by less important things. Like another player's trash talk or a mistake made on a previous play. The ability to not be thwarted by what we think we know to be true, diminishing the ability to take in new information so we can better see what is in front of us. Full Heart Strong and sustained effort. Picking yourself up and moving forward when you get knocked down. The attitude that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you do about it. Being all in and committed. Loyal to those you share the challenge with. Keeping the balance between one for all and all for one. It is the grit that when you are losing you at least slow the process down so there is less ground to make up when coming back. It is having pride in what you do. It is respecting the effort and talents of others even when they might be our competitor. Cant Lose It is valuing effort even when we fall short of our hopes and expectations. We might lose the game, lose the girl, not get the promotion, be dissapointed in the end result. Recognize that clear eyes and a full heart breed success in many ways perhaps not visible to the connections with others that you might not realize until long after the experience, or perhaps never at least in this life. It improves our ability to win the next game and if we do not win the effort improves who we are. -Steve Sawyer
The anniversary is just kind of another day for me. It hurts the same and feels the same whether it's 730 days or 731 days. I do want to honor the day itself in some way though. We started the 10ninety podcast on July 25, 2022. The one year anniversary of the car accident that took the lives of my wife Kortni, Son Riggins, Daughter Franki, Brother Race and Nephew Rider on July 25, 2021. The accident also claimed the lives of other people and families. What a terrible lonely day. So... What am I going to do about it? What is anyone who had any affiliation with that accident going to do about it? What are you going to do about your demons and terrible lonely days? Because it happened, it's done, you can't change it. Do we look for pity, special treatment, and wonder why me, poor me? Do we become bitter and hate the world and the people in it? Do we run away from accountablity and avoid future circumstances that might lead us to suffering and pain again? Or do we battle on? Appreciating what pain and death and obstacles can teach us? With the mindset that you can take my wife, you can take my son, you can take my daughter, you can take my brother, you can take my nephew but you won't take away my fighting spirit to carry on and the love I have for each of them. You can't take away my desire to be virtuous for virtuous sake and instead of hating it, what if I loved it? Thank you to Sam and Ryan for joining the 10ninety family. Thanks to all of our sponsors, listeners, and true believers of the 10ninety rule. I love you Kortni I love you Riggins I love you Franki I love you Race I love you Rider Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you're going to do about it.
The Office: season 3 episode 4 is about Michael Scotts old boss Ed Truck dying and no one seems to care. Michael trys holding a grief counceling meeting and then the office holds a funeral for a dead bird. Sam and I breakdown this episode and try to use it as a refrence point to talk about the strange and unpredictable monster that grief is. We apologize if your not a fan of The Office.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast we talk with Kelly Jewel. 14 years ago Kelly lost her husband Clint to Leukemia. Mason and Kelly talk about the importance of talking about your grief throughout your life because the grief will be with you forever. Mason and Kelly talk about the battle you have with hope as you're going through trauma. Kelly talks about how the grief of Clint's passing has been on her mind more as her kids get older. Kelly talks about the moments before Clint's passing, hyper fixating on small moments, and how opening up about her pain helps her carry it better.
On this episode of the 10 Ninety Podcast we interview Kimberly Howard. On June 28th, 2013 Kimberly lost her son Keaton to a boating accident at Lake Powell. Mason and Kimberly talk about how there's no way to prepare for grief. They talk about the importance of feeling all of the emotions that come with trauma, life's synchronicities, and understanding that every person grieves differently.
On this episode of the 10 Ninety podcast we interview Brie Ocea. On July 4, 2022 Brie lost her son Romeo to a drowning accident. Brie shares with us details about the day of the accident and her experience dealing with grief. Mason and Brie talk about the difficulties of sharing their stories to help others while also dealing with the criticism and the perception other people may have of them. They talk about the difficulties of losing a child so young because others will never know them like they did. They talk about the unfairness of them being unable to experience all that this life has to offer.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety podcast we interview Kuri Bolger. On March 5th 2022 Kuri and her family were involved in an F4 tornado in Winterset Iowa. Kuri, her son Brysen, her brother, and her stepfather were the only survivors. Kuri lost her husband Mike Bolger, her daughter Kinlee, her son Owen, and her mother Melissa Bazley. In this episode Mason and Kuri talk about the difficulties of grieving multiple people at the same time. They also talk about how the best way to honor the loved ones they have lost is to live a life they would be proud of. They talk about how sharing their grief with others has given them strength and helps them feel closer to the loved ones they have lost.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason and Ryan talk about things that probably should be left to qualified professionals. We talk about top 10 states that struggle with suicide and depression and discuss whether there's a difference between grief and clinical depression. If you're hurting. Please talk to someone.
my therapist joins me again on the show to talk about ANXIETY. Why it's good and how it can be bad. I always enjoy having Matt on. I think he knows his stuff but I see him more as a buddy than a "therapist". Brindy (Matt's Wife) also joined us as well and talked a lot about breath work and breath therapy. Thanks guys, always love having you on Matt. Thanks for all you do for me.
Founder and CEO of the mental health franchise, Zion Healing inc. Robert went from being on top of the world in his 30's as a young millionaire after his company went public. Alcohol and other things took Robert from the top to the bottom, when he was homeless for two years on the streets of Salt Lake City. After nearly dying, Robert found his way back to the top and has found success in helping other people heal and battle their own addictions. Thanks Robert, you're the man.
Not sure how many people have experienced what Matt has. The pian he experiences is both improbable and cruel I think. How Matt endures it, is truly inspiring. Loved hearing his persepctive and what his 90% looks like. Thanks Matt! I admire your courage and ability to find a little beauty in a lot of ugly.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast we talk about Nathan from Australia. Throughout Nathan's life he has dealt with abandonment from parents, introduction to drugs and alcohol at an early age, and using anger to cope with his trauma. Nathan sought help from doctors and was not seeing improvements from the prescribed medication. After a number of different traumas that Nathan faced he eventually met Craig Lithgow. Craig opened up his heart to Nathan and this was the beginning of improvement for Nathan. Nathan's story is a reminder of the importance of human connection. Like Nathan we all seek connection through different ways. We talk about how genuine connection with people who care for you and show you love is some of the best medicine available.
On this episode of the 10 Ninety podcast we interview Parker Lee. We talk with Parker about the chaos you can invite into your life through people pleasing. How to balance the principle of we>me while living a life authentic to yourself. We talk about the importance of not comparing your pain to others.
In this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast, we sit down with Amanda Hurst. Amanda lost her husband, Clever Hurst, to suicide on June 5th, 2020. Mason and Ryan talk with Amanda about the persistent taboo surrounding suicide and the need to recognize signs of depression in those we care about. They discuss the experience Amanda had being married to Cleve for 12 years, the nuances between grief and depression, and the crucial importance of reaching out for help if you're experiencing suicidal ideation.
In this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason talks with Sammy and Andrew Hardman. On February 10, 2022 Sammy and Andrew lost their son Drayke Andrew Hardman to suicide. They talk about Drayke's love for basketball, his kind heart, the day of and the battle in the hospital while Drayke was in a coma, the Hardman's journey with grief, and what we can do to help kids who are being bullied.
"You may not be responsible for getting knocked down. But you're certainly responsible for getting back up." -Wally Amos Seth Gehle was not responsible for his dad being in prison after trying to kill his mom, his mom being a drug addict and having addicts come and go as they pleased in and out of Seths house and bedroom. Seth found comfort in a adult friend who provided attention, food, shelter and safety. And then this adult "friend" ended up sexually molesting Seth over 300 times as well as raping him. Seth was not responsible for many things in his life, but it is his responsibility to get back up, and I'm not sure how he does it, but he does. Some parts of this episode are gross and will make you sick to your stomach but Seth deserves a place where he can talk about his trauma and all the details that come with it. Imagine being raped as a young boy, and no one wants to hear you talk about it. Not even the good guys want to hear you talk about it. Well, that's dumb. I am glad you felt comfortable sharing your story Seth. Love you man.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason talks with Jana White. Jana has been a high school psychology teacher and cross country coach for over 20 years. She has trained as a triathlete for most of her life and completed an ironman. Jana is a badass. In 2014 Jana lost her father and mother, Hubert Issel and Alana L. Uibel to a side by side accident. Jana's son Cooper and niece Evelyn were also involved in the accident. Jana worked as an EMT prior to the accident and talks to us about what she did to help save her son's life. Cooper suffered a traumatic brain injury from the accident and his recovery is an amazing story of turning trauma into triumph. Jana talks to us about helping her kids work through life's challenges and never giving up. Jana talks to us about the accident, her journey with grief, and the experience helping h er son Cooper with his recovery. Jana is a true hero, not just in that terrible moment with her family, but ever since then, her 90% is inspiring.
Jen and her Husband Chad were getting ready for a family vacation when Chad accidentely backed over their daughter Natalie in the driveway. Your life can and most likely will be shattered in an instant one day. What will remain is how you choose to handle it. We appreciate Jen having the courage to tell her story and share how she is handling her grief. Natalie, you sound amazing. Please go find Riggins and Franki and Rider if you haven't already. They would love to play and watch Frozen with you.
Shame and guilt are emotions that we all have. We all feel bad for some things we have done or haven't done. It is part of the human experience. I think that is why jesus told those dudes who were trying to stone that lady to death to only throw a stone if you have no shame or guilt. "He without sin" (shame and guilt) cast the first stone. We have created a culture where we don't talk about shame and guilt, ever. Even though it impacts us all greatly in our day to day life. Chad drove under the influence as an 18 year old kid, got into a car crash and paralyzed one of his best friends. Years later, Chad was moving along with life again. Got married, had a family and was doing well despite the guilt he had. Then one day as his family was getting ready for a family vacation he was backing out of the driveway and didnt know his 2 year old daughter Natalie was riding her bike. He accidently hit her, they rushed her to the hospital and then were told that she was gone. In a world full of people who don't want to talk about shame and guilt, I am proud of Chad for being willing to talk about his. Hearing his story has helped me a lot and I know it will help many of our listeners. As bad as the guilt and shame must be for Chad, he still had one quesiton to answer. What am I going to do about it?
In this episode I talk with my sister in law Keshia, and my niece Faith about Rider for his birthday. Happy Birthday Rider, we love and miss you so much.
Thank you to all our listeners, you guys sent in some questions and we answerd as many as we could. "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it." -Charles R. Swindo
Parker lost his wife, Jordan Lynae Terry, age 28. She passed away December 18, 2023, in Tucson, Arizona from complications incident to childbirth. A perfect full-term baby boy, Mack Jordan Terry, also passed away on December 17, 2023, during the birth. He weighed 9 pounds and 4 ounces, measuring 20 inches in length. Parker and Jordan planned an at home birth which turned into Parker slowly watching his wife and baby die. Victoria Alexander says; "There are three needs of the griever. To find the words for the loss, to say the words aloud and to know that the words have been heard." Jordan and Mack passed away about 5 months ago, the strength Jordan has to talk about it is inspiring to me. Thank you for finding the words and saying them Jordan, they will definitely be heard by our 10ninety tribe.
Sam and Mason discuss The Parable of the Raft which they heard from Noah Rashetta's podcast: Secular Buddhism. Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go" -Hermann Hesse