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On this episode of the 10 Ninety Podcast we talk to Tim and Becky Graff for the second time. To hear the full story about the day they lost their daughters you can go back and listen to episode 20. On May 11, 2020 Tim and Becky lost their two daughters Ellie and Kinsley to a flash flood while hiking through Little WIldhorse Canyon. During this episode we talk about what Tim and Becky are doing 4 years later and what they do to manage their grief.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason and Ryan talk to Mitch Whetman. If you haven't heard Mitch's story go back and listen to episode 15 where we first talk about Mitch's sister Whitney. Whitney passed away from suicide on July 16, 2010. Mitch said in the first episode we recorded with him that when you lose a loved one, "they die in pieces." Since our last interview Mitch got married and had his first baby, and son, Nashton Bret Whetman. On this episode we talk about the difficulty of accepting the good things happening in your life when your loved ones aren't there to witness it. We talk about what we do to tap into the idea of We>Me and we talk about Mitch's spiritual journey while walking with grief.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast we interview Ryan Stream. Ryan Stream is TEDx speaker, best selling author, Veteran, and entrepreneur. Ryan shares his story about growing up in poverty, battling drug addiction, going to war, and building his life up from rock bottom. Ryan talks about how life happens for you instead of life happening to you. He shares with us gifts that he’s been given that have impacted his life and people who have seen the potential within him when he couldn’t see it himself. Ryan’s a great dude. Happy to have met him and share time with him on this podcast.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason and Ryan talk about how people aren't looking for you to fix their problems when something bad happens. They talk about how sometimes its about being emotionally supportive.
This is not a normal 10/90 episode, Sam was not in on this one. Mason sits down with Kortni's siblings Jordin, Jared and Chad and talk about Kortni on her birthday. Kortni's sister KC was really sick and couldn't make it, so that was a bummer. Wanted to have memories of Kortni so Blue and his kids and whoever else can know how incredible she was. Love you Kortni, happy birthday, SLAPSHOT REGATTA
Thank you for the questions sent in and all the support from our 10ninety listeners! Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what your going to do about it.
Sam and Mason dicuss Franki's favorite movie Tangled in honor of Mason and Kortni's 10 year anniversary and Franki's 4th Birthday. Franki: Happy Birthday Princess. Today you would have turned four. I am grateful and cherish the life you had and the joy you gave everyone including me. I am haunted by what once was mine. Haunted by the future and what could/should have been. Love you forever and always Franki. Kortni: How lucky am I to love someone so much to feel this miserable. Death and pain has shown me how much love I truly have for you. Trying my hardest without you. Haunted by what could have been and so lucky to have what we did. I'd go through hell over and over again if it meant being with you and having Riggins, Blue, and Franki. Slapshot regatta! Love you always and forever. Happy 10 year anniversary Kort.
After a horrific automobile accident took the lives of his wife and youngest son, also inflicting multiple life-threatening injuries to Jeff (including the amputation of his left leg) he found the courage to survive over 18 surgeries and eventually heal both physically and emotionally. At the time of his accident, Olsen had incredible Out-of-Body and Near-Death Experiences, bringing him insights not common in today’s world. Jeff has integrated these experiences into everyday life, inspiring others to embrace the beauty around them and choose joy in all they do. Olsen’s latest book, WHERE ARE YOU? is a collaboration with his oldest son Spencer, who also survived the accident at the age of seven. They have captured in a simple and powerful way their healing journey through the innocent perspective of that seven year old child. “Where Are You?” is a heartfelt book for all ages and perfect for anybody who misses someone. Among Jeff’s many accomplishments, he is most fulfilled by simply being a husband, father and friend. *we copied and pasted this from the internet. No one from 10/90 wrote this discription.
My honest opinion and my friendly advice is this: do it or do not do it-you will regret both. -Sören Kierkegaard
Sam and Mason sit down with Preston Schooley and discuss how he turned down a safe, high paying job to pursue his dream as a tattoo artist. Preston also talks about his divorce and how life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you do about it. Preston did a lot of sweet tattoos for me that have a lot of meaning, and he crushed them all. Thanks Preston!
Sam Josie is back! On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason and Sam discuss a story about monkeys in a cage trying to get a banana, zebras with targets on them, and the alleged true story of Job from The Bible.
Sam went to disneyland, so it was just mason and Brandon Burke who break down the parable of the mexican fisherman. "Wealth is the slave of a wise man. The master of a fool" -Seneca
We smiled back at death today. Had Wyatt Kline on our podcast an 18 year old senior from Roy High School in Northern Utah. Wyatt's mom took her own life when he was 15 years old. Wyatt was the one who found his mothers body. Wyatt has a 10ninety mindset and we were blown away with how strong he is. Part of the 10ninety message is we is greater than me. Mason's wife Kortni was a prime example of this in her day to day life. She genuily put her kids first and loved it. Motherhood in general comes with the territory of we is greater than me. Happy Mothers Day
Sam and Mason answer questions sent in by listeners. They did more than one question this time. Thank you for all the support we have gotten. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you're going to do about it.
June 29th is Franki's Birthday. I miss you so much Frank, can't believe you would be 5! June 29th is also Kortni and my 11th anniversary. I wrote you guys a letter and wanted to read it on here so we would always have it. I love and miss you both so much.
Got to talk with Conner Furu and what he has been through in his life. We both talked a lot about how sports has played a pivotal role in our lives. It was fun to relate with someone like him in that way. Conner is a man of his word and you get a sense of his integridy and accountability in this episode I think. One of my favorite quotes from him says; "The inferno of our grief is fueled by our refusal to acknowledge it, and extinguished by our attempts to undertand it." Grief at times does feel like an inferno and I think Conner is right. If you refuse to talk about it then it only feeds it and makes it bigger. Only by talking about it can you actually extinguish it. Thanks for showing up and being on our show Conner
"I remember when I turned 33" I am 6 months older than Kortni and so every time she had a birthday I would say "I remember when I turned..." I think she laughed hard the first time I did it and then rolled here eyes for the next 15 years when I did it haha. Where I am currently at in my grief journey is having the idea that Kortni and Riggins and Franki are somewhere. I am not sure what form or shape that is in but they are somewhere together and it is a struggle for them. Just like it is a struggle for Blue and I and the rest of our family. Kortni always found a way to help people and have a positive influence in the worst of circumstances. Even though Kortni is dealing with grief too I know she would be handling it well with a combo of grace and fury. She keeps me going, she gets me out of bed. She has always been a great leader and role model to me. I got to have some Kortni's friends on. (sorry to all the freinds we didnt have on haha kort would have felt bad) Thank you to her friends Shelbi and Madi who went to middle school with Kortni and played high school basketball with her. We had Kort's friend Aria on too who worked as a nurse with Kortni. My absolute favorite thing is hearing stories about Kortni, especially ones I have never heard of before. So thank you to Shelbi, Madi and Aria I felt Kortni's spirit so strongly talking to all of you at the same time. HAPPY BIRTHDAY KORTNI! LOVE YOU FOREVER.
I have my sister in law Keshia, niece Faith and nephew Ran on to talk about what July 25, 2021 was for each of us and what we were doing when we got the news. Talking about Trauma is hard. There is so much my family has not talked about still. The more you talk, the easier it becomes to find the right words. It takes effort, just like anything else in life. I'm so proud of my family in this episode. 3 years later it still hurts the same, maybe worse. The more time goes on the more I havent seen them. That is really difficult to accept. What I have learned so far is how much I really loved Kortni, Riggins, Franki, Race and Rider. Death has shown me that. I have learned that the gratitude, the joy, the love, the growth to be had from this horror is located in the same place as the pain. I ran from the pain for so long but that was also causing me to run away from Kortni and Riggins and Franki and Race and Rider. It still hurts, really bad. Continuing to talk about them and how I feel on the inside as allowed me to also find gratitude and love along with the pain now. I didnt have that at the beginning. Kortni, Riggins, Franki, Race, Rider. We love you and miss you so much. I never thought this would be our life and journey together. But it is, so what are we going to do about it?
Riggins would have turned 9 today which is hard to believe. I still hear his sweet voice and cute laugh when he was 5 about to turn 6. I love and miss you so much Riggins. Happy 9th Birthday.
Sam and Mason discuss The Parable of the Raft which they heard from Noah Rashetta's podcast: Secular Buddhism. Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go" -Hermann Hesse