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On this episode of the 10 Ninety Podcast we talk to Tim and Becky Graff for the second time. To hear the full story about the day they lost their daughters you can go back and listen to episode 20. On May 11, 2020 Tim and Becky lost their two daughters Ellie and Kinsley to a flash flood while hiking through Little WIldhorse Canyon. During this episode we talk about what Tim and Becky are doing 4 years later and what they do to manage their grief.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason and Ryan talk to Mitch Whetman. If you haven't heard Mitch's story go back and listen to episode 15 where we first talk about Mitch's sister Whitney. Whitney passed away from suicide on July 16, 2010. Mitch said in the first episode we recorded with him that when you lose a loved one, "they die in pieces." Since our last interview Mitch got married and had his first baby, and son, Nashton Bret Whetman. On this episode we talk about the difficulty of accepting the good things happening in your life when your loved ones aren't there to witness it. We talk about what we do to tap into the idea of We>Me and we talk about Mitch's spiritual journey while walking with grief.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast we interview Ryan Stream. Ryan Stream is TEDx speaker, best selling author, Veteran, and entrepreneur. Ryan shares his story about growing up in poverty, battling drug addiction, going to war, and building his life up from rock bottom. Ryan talks about how life happens for you instead of life happening to you. He shares with us gifts that he’s been given that have impacted his life and people who have seen the potential within him when he couldn’t see it himself. Ryan’s a great dude. Happy to have met him and share time with him on this podcast.
On this episode of The 10 Ninety Podcast Mason and Ryan talk about how people aren't looking for you to fix their problems when something bad happens. They talk about how sometimes its about being emotionally supportive.
Craig Lithgow told me about this movie called "Finding Joe" which is based off of the life and teachings of Joseph Campbell and what he calls the hero's journey. So we watched the movie together when we were in Australia and I loved it. One of my favorite parts of the movie was the first scene. It was about this golden budah. Thought I would share some of the thoughts I had about it.
On this episode we talk with Christian Sandoval. Christian is a retired veteran serving in the United States Army and ended his career as a Master Sergeant. He has a Masters degree in Human Performance and a Masters in organizational leadership. He is the owner and operator of TAT (total athlete performance). TAT helps athletes improve their speed, agility, strength, conditioning, and nutrition. On this episode we talk with Christian about facing the coward in all of us, leadership, the transfer portal for athletes, stoicism, the importance of intention, and building resilience in the body and mind.
On this episode of the 10 Ninety Podcast we talk with Logan and Ciara Raban about their son Duke. At 7 months Duke was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer called ATRT. Logan and Ciara walk us through the days leading up to the diagnosis, their time with Duke at Primary Children's hospital, and the moments just before Duke's passing on June 29th, 2021. Logan and Ciara share with us how they have processed the passing of their son differently and how they have maintained love and understanding for each other through their grief. Almost immediately after Duke's passing they found out Ciara was pregnant with Brooks. Brooks is now 18 months old. Logan and Ciara are an example of "clear eyes, full hearts, can't lose." They are wonderful parents and we know that Duke and Brooks are proud to call them Mom and Dad. #DukeStrong
Craig Lost his wife and two kids in a car accident in Australia in 1996. Craig reached out to me after seeing one of our 10/90 clips. Craig and I have become great friends and it means a lot for me to have someone to lean on that understands my pain and grief as well as he does. I feel like Craig is the older, Australian version of me haha. No matter what type of hell you are going through, if you handle it well, you will be able to help someone else who will go through that same hell. Thank you Craig for handling your pain and grief the way you have to help others and me 27 years later. Love you man. So I flew to Australia spent the week with Craig and did some amazing healing. One of the things we did was record this podcast. Hope you enjoy.
Levi Lieske spent the majority of his youth in jail and prison. He has a powerful story of overcoming many obstacles, at the center of his story is gratitude. Something that i have struggled with since the car accident. His message of being grateful in the toughest of times was very inspiring to me. Thank you Levi! "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what your going to do about it.
Sam and Mason discuss Tony Robbins 6 Human Needs. Certainty uncertainty/variety Significance Connection/Love Growth Contribution
"Well well well...how the turn tables" The 10ninety podcast thanks Jimmy Rex by having him on for an episode where Jimmy and Mason talk about all sorts of different stuff. Thank you Jimmy Rex, you have opened many doorways for the 10ninety rule. "Jimmy doesn't like misunderstandings"
Happy Birthday Riggins, would have turned 8 today. I love and miss you more than words can describe. Trying to live with clear eyes and a full heart without you buddy. I love you and miss you always. Clear Eyes The ability to see what needs to be done, an understanding of what the problem or challenge is. In the sports world it is knowing your assignment, what you have to do and understanding what your teammates are doing while reading the changing situation that plays out in front of you. The ability to not get distracted by less important things. Like another player's trash talk or a mistake made on a previous play. The ability to not be thwarted by what we think we know to be true, diminishing the ability to take in new information so we can better see what is in front of us. Full Heart Strong and sustained effort. Picking yourself up and moving forward when you get knocked down. The attitude that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you do about it. Being all in and committed. Loyal to those you share the challenge with. Keeping the balance between one for all and all for one. It is the grit that when you are losing you at least slow the process down so there is less ground to make up when coming back. It is having pride in what you do. It is respecting the effort and talents of others even when they might be our competitor. Cant Lose It is valuing effort even when we fall short of our hopes and expectations. We might lose the game, lose the girl, not get the promotion, be dissapointed in the end result. Recognize that clear eyes and a full heart breed success in many ways perhaps not visible to the connections with others that you might not realize until long after the experience, or perhaps never at least in this life. It improves our ability to win the next game and if we do not win the effort improves who we are. -Steve Sawyer
The anniversary is just kind of another day for me. It hurts the same and feels the same whether it's 730 days or 731 days. I do want to honor the day itself in some way though. We started the 10ninety podcast on July 25, 2022. The one year anniversary of the car accident that took the lives of my wife Kortni, Son Riggins, Daughter Franki, Brother Race and Nephew Rider on July 25, 2021. The accident also claimed the lives of other people and families. What a terrible lonely day. So... What am I going to do about it? What is anyone who had any affiliation with that accident going to do about it? What are you going to do about your demons and terrible lonely days? Because it happened, it's done, you can't change it. Do we look for pity, special treatment, and wonder why me, poor me? Do we become bitter and hate the world and the people in it? Do we run away from accountablity and avoid future circumstances that might lead us to suffering and pain again? Or do we battle on? Appreciating what pain and death and obstacles can teach us? With the mindset that you can take my wife, you can take my son, you can take my daughter, you can take my brother, you can take my nephew but you won't take away my fighting spirit to carry on and the love I have for each of them. You can't take away my desire to be virtuous for virtuous sake and instead of hating it, what if I loved it? Thank you to Sam and Ryan for joining the 10ninety family. Thanks to all of our sponsors, listeners, and true believers of the 10ninety rule. I love you Kortni I love you Riggins I love you Franki I love you Race I love you Rider Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% what you're going to do about it.
The Office: season 3 episode 4 is about Michael Scotts old boss Ed Truck dying and no one seems to care. Michael trys holding a grief counceling meeting and then the office holds a funeral for a dead bird. Sam and I breakdown this episode and try to use it as a refrence point to talk about the strange and unpredictable monster that grief is. We apologize if your not a fan of The Office.
Mason and Sam discuss the challenges Sam faced growing up with Dwarfism along with along with challenges he faces everyday as an adult with Dwarfism. Join us in continuing our discussion of overcoming obstacles by applying the 10/90 method. This week's episode is sponsored by Priority Property Maintenance.
A visit with Matt Quackenbush as he shares his expertise and insights as a trauma therapist. He is the owner and creator of the Finding Strength Podcast and the Finding Strength Method, a cutting edge therapeutic treatment approach. He and has been instrumental in helping Mason as a therapist. This episode is sponsored by Alex Pedroni of Utah Real Estate . Find her at @your_realestategirl for all your real estate needs. Thank you so much for your support.
Mason visits with Fred Yogo, who shares his life’s challenges of growing up in Kenya and then immigrating to the United States. “Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” - Epictetus Thanks for this week’s sponsor, Dr. Jason Bruse, foot surgeon in Davis County. 801-397-6150 And Nets on Fire for their continued support.
Mason and Sam visit with Nick and Janessa Whatcott as they share their journey of losing their young son, Nixon, to cancer. Their story is inspirational. This month is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. Do something to brighten the life child battling cancer. This episode is sponsored by G.O.A.T. Athletic Spa in South Jordan, Utah. Thank you for listening and for your support.
Sam and Mason sit down with Brook Pando as she discusses the obstacle of having their daughter Londy suffer from Ehlers Danlos Syndrome type 6a. Their attitude and perserverance is inspiring. Thank you to our sponsors!
This week Mason and Sam interview Shawn Vierra as he shares his story of trauma and how he has been able to move forward. This episode is sponsored by Polished Audio. Thank you for your support.
Sam and Mason discuss The Parable of the Raft which they heard from Noah Rashetta's podcast: Secular Buddhism. Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go" -Hermann Hesse
